Understand & up-skill

Having a baby is unlike anything you have ever done before. You are likely to find many things to worry or be anxious about. To help with your worries and anxieties, understanding what is happening in your pregnancy and what having a new baby can be like, can be enormously helpful. Learning skills to help you cope in the first days and months of a newborn’s life can also help to reduce worries and anxieties.

E-visit the right places

If you are pregnant or have a new baby and have things you are worried about, you are likely to go online and ask questions of the internet. You can get helpful information if you go to the right places. If you want to understand more about your pregnancy go to reputable websites such as those sponsored or supported by Governments and not-for-profit organisations. The Australian Government’s Pregnancy, birth and baby website is a good one to start with -

If you want to understand more about what it is like having a new baby visit: 'What were we thinking' - Here you will find information and skills that can help you in the first days and months of your baby’s life.

Knowing this is your journey

As tempting as it is to compare yourself with others and predict what your pregnancy will be like or what it will be like to have a new baby, you won’t really know what your journey will be until you are on it. Some pregnancies are easy, some are hard, some are hard at the start, get easier and then get difficult again. You are an individual – your baby is an individual - you will experience your pregnancy and the birth of your baby in your own way. Other people will probably give you all kinds of advice and tell you what you should be doing, when you should be doing it and how you should be doing it. This is your journey with your baby and your partner. Do what is right for you.

Finding the right doctor for you

There are some doctors you will feel comfortable with and supported by, and others you may not relate to as well. This is normal. You don’t have to put up with poor treatment or poor communication from your doctor, so if you do not feel well informed or supported, try to find another doctor.

Finding others who understand

Find others who are understanding and helpful. You may find a great support group in your antenatal class or a new parents’ group. You may have friends or relatives who are pregnant or new parents whom you trust and can relate to. The people in your life at this time need to be caring and supportive, non-judgmental and inclusive. This is no time to surround yourself with people who are demanding or who make you feel bad for the choices you make.  

Created on 29/08/2013 | Updated on 01/12/2015
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