Understanding & support

Trying to have a baby is a frustrating, difficult, confusing time. You can feel like you are a failure, that you have no control over your world and you don’t know what the future holds - all plans are on hold. You are likely to find many things to worry or be anxious about. To help with your worries and anxieties, seek information and support from reliable and appropriate places.

E - visit the right places

If you are finding it difficult to get pregnant you can be tempted to go on-line and ask questions of the internet. If you want to understand more about fertility problems, go to reputable websites such as those sponsored or supported by governments and not-for-profit organisations as these are less likely to have a monetary interest in the information they provide, and are not seeking to sell you a service. Try:

Find the right doctor for you

There are some doctors you will feel comfortable with and supported by, and others you may not relate to as well. This is normal. You don’t have to put up with poor treatment or poor communication from your doctor, so if you do not feel well informed or supported, find another doctor. For help on how to make informed decisions about your health see This is happening to you and you need to feel you can ask questions or share your ideas about what you want to happen.

Finding others who understand

Find others who are understanding and helpful. You may find a great support group, or you may feel more comfortable just talking to one or two other women who have struggled in the same way. You may have friends or relatives who you trust, who aren’t there to offer advice or judge you but will provide empathy and understanding. The people in your life at this time need to be caring and supportive. This is no time to surround yourself with people who are demanding or who make you feel bad about the choices you make. 

Created on 28/08/2013 | Updated on 01/12/2015
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